Tuesday, 29 March 2016

I Used To Be So Good At This


Buffy: "I used to be so good at this."

Recently I've been feeling like this. I don't know if it's the haircut, which I can't wait to grow out, or the weight gain, but nothing looks quite right. I used to match clothing items so easily, I look back over old outfits and I'm like, "that's perfect! Why can't I put things together like that anymore?" Of course, even if I still had those clothes, they would probably no longer fit me. 

What happened to my sense of style? My outfits used to feel right, practically put themselves together! Now everything feels wrong.

22 comments:

  1. Our styles evolve over time, you will find the balance eventually ♥

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  2. I'm currently can't feel like I can style my hair at all. Same few go-to hairstyles, over and over. I try something new and it turns into a sloppy mess. I've been trying to do a braided ballerina bun for a week, at least once a day, and it seems to come out worse every time.

    So... It isn't just you. We all feel like we're in a rut from time to time.

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  3. I understand that feeling, I fancy a change in hairstyle, I'm considering a very angle and surveer bob, I know what I would regret it. My mood changes from what to do.

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  4. I hate that. It could be that you are getting used to your cut. Hang in there, you will get your groove back soon! I still think you look amazing! *hugs*

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  5. I hate it when I go through phases when stuff that seemed easy seems complicated all of a sudden, as if the Stupid Fairy whapped me about the head several times when I slept. You'll shake it off in time. I know you will. :)

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  6. I'm really sorry that you feel so bad about this. And I understand it so well, right now I'm in the process of reclaiming my closet, too (I made a style mindmap to get my thoughts in order and then went and started to aquire things).
    If it counts for anything I like your haircut very much but it you're not happy with it you should definitely get rid of it - as of everything that doesn't spark joy.
    Love from - atm - Amsterdam,
    Hedge <3

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  7. Maybe that means your sense of style is changing! When I got my hair cut, I started dressing more simply, and when my hair stopped looking alternative, I thought I looked too minimalist. So, now I'm drifting to flowing skirts again. I used to spend tons of time getting ready, but now I don't, and I'm okay with that.

    I went through a period where I had dramatic weight gain from a medication I was taking, and I gained weight in the worst places, like my face and back/shoulder area, so nothing looked right. I felt awful (partly because the meds made me emotional, partly because my body was changing rapidly).

    If you want advice or encouragement, I'd say to try to find an outfit that suits you in the moment rather than comparing it (or yourself) to past outfits. Keep doing you, as they say!

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  8. Oh man I know that feel (and that episode of Buffy!)
    I go through periods when my clothes really do seem to put themselves together, and I make an outfit I love in 10 mins just by opening the wardrobe door. But then I go through periods when I have a new item sitting there for 6 months or a year before I find a way to wear it... I've noticed those periods relate to when my body image demons are playing up as well.

    Good luck getting out of your slump, I always look forward to your outfits!

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  9. Take some time to get your mojo back. We'll still be here :)

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  10. I must be blind (or be very bad at this), because I think you look fantastic in every picture you've shared with us.

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    1. Ah but you haven't seen the ones I haven't shared! :P

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    2. We all have to make decisions on what to wear. Some outfits look better when we are in a particular mood, or in a particular season... Give them time, like bell bottoms, they'll eventually come back. ♥

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  11. Ugh, I feel the same way lately! Everything feels wrong. I don't know why... and it's so frustrating.

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  12. Take a deep breath! Look at yourself in the mirror and make sure you are telling yourself, that you love you!! And, you mean it! Maybe you are going into a different direction? Don't be sad! Don't fight it! Just go with the flow!!! You are beautiful! I mean that!

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  13. I found that as I got older that I've hit those style walls as well. Perhaps lay out all your clothing and do a brainstorming session! Try on different combos and see what feels good :)

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  14. Ehh...I've been feeling the same way for quite some time now; I used to be so well put together; clothes, hair, makeup and everything, but now...it all feels wrong. Obviously, it's because I simply don't feel comfortable in my own skin...My figure changed, I gained some weight and cut my hair, changed the color...and I hate it. Not necessarily the new hairstyle, but the changes. The weight gain drives me nuts, I just had an emotional breakdown in a changing room two days ago...So I feel you. People keep teeling me, that I'm still beautiful and I shouldn't care, but...You know, I lost my confidence and can't get over it...So although I think there's nothing wrong with you, I'm not going to tell you to stop thinking this way, because I don't want to disregard your feelings...it pisses me off when people do that. But...you know, you can work on it. Your hair will grow out soon and you can change it again and you can always change and rebuild your wardrobe, because I'm sure your creativity is still there, hiding behind your insecurities...;)

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  15. <3 thank you! Sounds like we are in similar situations style and hair-wise! Let's hope things improve soon! Hugs!

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  16. yeah, I agree with what's been said already. Your style changes or you get bored with everything. You change your style pretty frequently (as do I) so I'm sure you'll get over this bump as you've probably had before. And yeah, it's amazing how important hair is. I've had natural brown hair which kind of doesn't work for alternative looks, so my style is kind of on 'haitus'. It seems like a lot of people are doing the same. Personally, I think things are kind of boring right now... even the nugoth thing, which revitalized the scene is getting kind of stale to me imo.

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  17. Laura, I hope you feel better about this soon because I still like your outfits and your hairstyle suits you well. Sometimes changes need time to feel right, as others said before! <3

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  18. It sounds like you are in a transition phase. It happens to all of us sometimes. Your a beautiful person and you are just morphing a little bit into something better.

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  19. Just catching up and read this so apologies for the late response. You always look adorable to me. *hugs*

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  20. I totally understand how you feel! I often put on clothes and then need to change to jeans and a sweater before I leave because it feels so wrong or weird. The problem is that I don't know if I'm so bad nowadays to put together an outfit or if it's just about that I have changed what I like to wear :(
    I laso hate my hair right now because it's this middle-lenght, not short but not long either.

    I like the comment above about transition phase, maybe that's true for both of us <3 many hugs!

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